When Tom proposed to me, he suggested that we look for a house. My dream has always been to own a house, and I was quite excited about the home buying aspect. Little did I know, that the whole process can be summarized by the following gif:
At this point, you keep hearing all these stories from parents, family, and friends about their struggle of getting "their" house. It makes you feel better that it's apparently a common issue, and you might have a good friend like I did to help put your life in perspective. I would say that home ownership evolves in a few stage:
Stage One: The Idyllic Dreamer
I will find everything I want in a house for the price I can afford.
Stage Two: The Bleak Thinker
The city is a barren wasteland and there is nothing on the horizon.
Stage Three: The Fierce Buyer
We will be relentless in going to showings and putting in our bid first.
Have experienced this crazy world of home ownership. I would tell my past self the following:
1. Trying to purchase a home between February-June is CRAZY. TRY NOT TO DO IT!
2. Your realtor is important. It's especially important that they are tech-savvy.
3. Bidding SUCKS.
4. If you are buying a home with a partner, you'll learn SO MUCH about that other person (mainly, you might have better taste). KIDDING. I had no idea Tom would have a different idea of "charming." I couldn't believe he found some features of a house drab that had me in awe.
5. Be open to all possibilities.
Final Thoughts: THE BIDDING PROCESS.
I know there are articles that say do not get emotionally attached, but as a first time homeowner----how are you not suppose to? My advice is get ready for the emotional upheaval when you spend a night in tears because you lost a home due to a coin-toss. Have your coping strategies ready to go.
Definitely exhibit caution when you want to "over-pay" for a house. Bidding can get intense especially when there is competition and feelings involved. If you're tempted to bid 10 grand more on a house----maybe you should just up your price range. That way you might even get more of a house. SQUARE FOOTAGE. If you didn't know clearly about square footage before your house purchase, you'll definitely know afterwards.
It might seem like mumbo jumbo at the time, but you will find the perfect house.